Self-esteem isn’t just thinking well of yourself. It is also a consistent feeling of self-respect. It has a stabilizing inﬂuence on the person and provides control as well as a sense of what is right. Many concerns can damage our self-esteem, which may happen to any of us in a way or another, but the good news is that it is improvable.
The process begins with a perceived criticism or a negative judgment from others, which triggers a low self-esteem. But the repetition of such critical thoughts reinforces the beliefs. In fact, reinforcement is a cognitive approach and a very powerful tool that conditions our behavior and mind: the more the behavior is reinforced, the more it is likely to be repeated. Thus, it is enough to reinforce the belief that “Everything I do leads to failure” to increase the probability of feeling that I am worthless. By doing this process and repeating it, we learn to undervalue ourselves. We encounter fear and learn the “I can’t”.
Let us, for a moment, observe the terms conscious and unconscious and how they affect self-esteem. Our conscious represents our judgment, reason, and liberty. The unconscious is in the depth of our psyche. We then need the unconscious forces subdue to the control of the conscious. It is like a carriage pulled by a horse and conducted by a coach driver. If the coach driver – who represents the conscious – falls asleep, then the horse – which represents the unconscious – can deviate in any direction ending up in a ditch. Therefore, what we need is a control of the conscious over the unconscious. This concept is important to understand because it is the basis of our technique, which aims at reducing the insidious role of the unconscious and defeating our fears. Our technique – as we shall see – is based on feeling an action ﬁrstly through the senses (vision, hearing, touch), and then inwardly like the air we breathe deeply which maintains the life. There is no better remedy than to plunge our conscious in the reality of the moment, to impregnate it with an external act, such that it is transformed into an internal feeling. When we are faced with facts as we see them, we shall be in a state of receptivity by living the present moment. By doing so, time after time, and by repeating it, we can reach liberty and free ourselves from the situation that imprisons us. To improve our Self-Esteem we need to work on our conscious and unconscious in an automatic way. This is precisely what the Rapid Improvement Self-Esteem method does.
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